Comments on: Unhappy birthday to me

By: kik

kik — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 20:53:19 +0000

Thanks for your answer. Is really helpful. I agree with you about going through it.

By: admin

admin — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:10:26 +0000

Hi Kik,

Of course I did! From both sides as well: academia and therapy. The first thought psychoanalysis was not robust enough for my research (too un-scientific); the second thought that, if I wanted to be cured of something, I should go for CBT or NLP. Don’t mind them, though. There are so many received ideas around psychoanalysis. Only going through it can give someone authority to comment. So write if you must. It really helped me disentangle some thoughts for my research.

By: kik

kik — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 19:07:37 +0000

Hello. It’s so uncommon for me to write on your own blog about psychoanalysis. I’m going throug analysis myself but most of the people around me think this is bullshit so I got used not to talk about it because their remarks did really harm me. Didn’t you get the same remarks?

By: Linda Herbertson

Linda Herbertson — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 07:05:11 +0000

I think the birthday is the day we realise we can never be as important to someone else as we are to ourselves, so it is existential solitude to the power X. Until we learn to make someone else more important to us than ourselves (which can be precipitated by having a child, for example), it is very painful.

Your birthday is conveniently the end of a quarter – you could always try celebrating the last day of every quarter – Oh, gosh, today I’m XX and a quarter, XX and three quarters ! etc. (I don’t know if aversion therapy works with everybody!)

I have a photograph of myself in roughly that state, with drink added – it was taken the first New Year I stayed away from Scotland and I was crying for my father.